Doomscrolling, Flashbacks, and Old Voices: Triggers in an Overwhelming World
In an overwhelming world, survivors of religious trauma often feel hijacked by triggers - through doomscrolling, flashbacks, or the return of old voices. These reactions are not weakness but the body remembering. This blog explores how to respond differently: with grounding, boundaries, and compassion that create space to live beyond survival.
What a Time: Stillness in the Midst of Online Chaos
It feels like the online world is on fire. Rage-bait, endless outrage, and divisive voices can leave our nervous systems spinning. Even with careful boundaries, the pull is strong and exhausting. But there’s another way. By naming what we feel, grounding in our bodies, pausing before reacting, and letting community hold us, we can expand our capacity without being consumed.
Reclaiming Joy: Why Laughter and Pleasure Are Essential in Religious Trauma Recovery
Healing from religious trauma isn’t just about processing pain, it’s also about reclaiming joy. This blog explores how laughter, pleasure, and everyday moments of delight are vital for recovery, offering practical tips and encouragement to help survivors reconnect with their authentic selves.
Rebuilding Your Identity After Leaving a High-Control Group
When you leave a high-control group you're not just walking away from a belief system you’re stepping out of an identity that was shaped for you. That disorientation you feel isn’t a failure; it’s the beginning of something more honest. This blog explores six practical and compassionate steps for rebuilding your identity after religious trauma or spiritual abuse.
Kind, Smart, and Human: Understanding Cult Dynamics and Recovery
This blog explores how cults target basic human needs like belonging, purpose, and healing, often disguised as love or belonging. We unpack why kind, intelligent people get pulled into high-control religious systems, why having good memories doesn’t erase the harm, and what recovery really looks like after walking away. Whether you're deep in the fog or finding your footing again, this is your reminder: you weren’t weak. You were human. And recovery is possible.
Trauma, the Nervous System & Self-Compassion: A Gentle Guide for the Healing Journey
Trauma lives in the body but so does our capacity to heal. In this gentle and grounded blog, we explore how trauma impacts the nervous system, why regulation isn’t just about breathing exercises, and how self-compassion (even when it feels impossible) is a key part of the recovery journey. This offers education, reflection, and real-life ways to return to safety, one small, messy step at a time.
Cult Tactics: The Art of Recruitment and Retention
You didn’t wake up one day and decide to join a cult. That’s the deception! High-control groups don’t come wearing warning labels. They come cloaked in purpose, belonging, and divine destiny. In this raw and revealing blog, I unpack how recruitment into controlling systems isn’t random — it’s calculated. From childhood indoctrination and love bombing to spiritualised performance and fear-based loyalty, I share how these tactics quietly stole my autonomy and how I found my way back.
Pride as Sacred Resistance.
True inclusion goes beyond tolerance. It means actively creating spaces where LGBTQIA+ people feel seen, heard, and valued. For faith communities, this includes: Publicly affirming queer identities in leadership and teachings. Listening to and centring queer voices. Acknowledging and repenting of past harms. Supporting the mental health and wellbeing of LGBTQIA+ members.
Inclusion is not about compromising beliefs, it’s about embodying the core spiritual principle of love without conditions.
Pride Month - The Wholeness I Found Outside the Church
This reflective Pride Month blog explores the journey of leaving religion and discovering a deeper sense of belonging through queerness. It speaks to the grief, healing, and sacredness of reclaiming identity outside of shame-based faith systems. A gentle, powerful read for anyone navigating religious trauma and queer self-acceptance.
Holding Healing Space: Boundaries & Trust in Religious Trauma Work
Working with clients who’ve experienced religious trauma while carrying your own lived experience is both a powerful gift and a delicate responsibility. This blog explores how to hold sacred space with empathy and integrity, honouring boundaries, rebuilding trust, and making sure the work stays focused on your client’s healing, not your own.